One Knock Against Small Town Living

What follows is a made up situation that in no way should point towards any person in our community or any community I'm familiar with. It is a 'what if' or 'what could be' situation only that could happen in any town or city.

We all know how in small towns everyone knows everyone else (or just about so). The one problem with this is the rumours that can and are started on a daily basis. Let's say for example that a couple of guys decide to head over to the local watering hole to have another wobbly pop (of which they have had a few already). As they are sitting down, one of the fellows looks around to ensure that the pair have no one around and tells his mate of the the latest rumour he has heard or wants to make up. 'One of the local ladies is having a go around with one of the local men when her hubby is away working' They are joking of course and mean no harm in a little harmless talking. Now of course the fellow cautions his mate that this is just a rumour and not to repeat it to anyone else. The other fellow agrees and they finish their refreshment and move on.

You just know of course that there was someone else listening behind the corner (behind the door or wherever) or the mate just can't keep it to himself and the rumour starts to take on a world of it's own. The next thing you know you hear that the lady in question had a 'sleep over' with said man as his truck or car was parked outside her house all night long a couple days ago. Her husband was away working and wasn't able to get home for the night. Of course there was a very valid reason why the vehicle was parked at the house, but that is never revealed. This goes on and on and on. The next thing you hear is that the lady is pregnant, it is a wife swapping exchange, divorce, yada yada yada.

In small towns the local cafe is where most folks gather and swap tales. It would probably take about 1/2 a day for the above rumour to hit the local coffee circle. Of course every time it is told, the story is embellished upon. The next time the lady in question, her paramour or the husband/wife enters the cafe the conversation just dies. You have to wonder what they were talking about?

Now getting back to our original two thirsty gents . . . They finally wander into the coffee circle and hear the latest rumour only to be totally aghast as this is the one they started with each other as a joke or in jest. It just can't be, we meant nothing by it and we all know that the people in question would never get involved in something like this. It is just wrong. So of course they offer their apologies to the people involved and all is well again? This would be not the normal as usually no one knows where a certain rumour starts or who started it.

In a real world this would be the end of the story, however, as with most rumours it is not the end . . .

The trouble with this is that the rumour is out there and folks that have nothing better to do will just keep it moving and enlarging the rumour over and over and over again. Sure some folks will just mark it down as rumour but there definitely will be some that take it very much serious and think it is the gospel. Quite likely the reputation of some very nice people have been ruined by a stupid comment amongst just a couple of thirsty guys with nothing better to do. Once there is a question mark put on the morality of a person or the person's particular character, it is very, very hard to get it back.

The above scenario can certainly happen in a city as well as a smaller town, however, in the city your chances of someone actually knowing who the heck you are, who the people in the rumour are or really caring what the heck you are even talking about is very minute. Whereas some in small towns just live for a such good juicy rumour.

As I said when I first started this story, it is just a 'story' and there is no reality to it that I know of. It is not meant to point to anyone in particular and is only written about as one of the harsher living conditions of a town compared to a city.

It is definitely a wake up for those folks that start rumours or pass them on. You are not just having a bit of fun, you are hurting real people.

To my thinking, living in a Town has a way more positives than negatives, however, you do have to realize that there are some negatives out there as well.

You know I wonder if that is why I never or very rarely stop at the local coffee shop and instead drive the 30-45 minutes to the city to have a cup of java at one of the A & Ws. Naw, it must be that A & W has such great coffee :)